1. You have tried to be their friend more than be their spiritual leaders

2. They are following how they have seen you treat others and talk about them

3. They have not seen you respect people in authority yourself

4. You don't know how to tell them no regularly

5. You don't spend enough time with them one on one

6. You haven't taught them to consider other's needs over your own.

7. They have not seen you love on your spouse

8. You need to pray more for your kids

9. You are no fun

10. They Need Jesus